It’s a funny conversation to have with someone, their position or preference on how to place the roll of toilet paper. Some say it should go in the back as it protects the paper from unnecessarily rolling and is potentially cleaner. The other, louder crowd, insists that toilet paper must roll forward as it has easier access and is more convenient. Regardless of the side the argument you roll on, I mean "fall" on, you most likely have a firm position on this subject.
So how does the great toilet paper debate have anything to do with having a strong relationship?
In short, it’s our ability as a partner to set aside our preferences, even strong ones, to entertain and get curious about our partner's perspective. You see, there is no correct answer for preference, it’s just preference. In relationships that struggle, couples have a difficult time sitting in the grey area of their differing opinions. Beneath their awareness, they feel as though they are right, and their partner must align with them, or it threatens the relationship - "Unless you agree, you are wrong!"
Welcomed Difference
Embracing a relationship philosophy that values differing opinions and ideas paves the way for more meaningful conversations. Cultivating an environment that embraces diverse viewpoints fosters curiosity and understanding. Being curious with our partners ensures that they consistently feel heard, known, and understood. Feeling heard creates a sense of safety, allowing us to be open about our true thoughts and feelings. This openness leads to genuine conversations where we can express our true selves without reservation.
I’ve seen it with my clients millions of times! Okay, maybe just thousands…lol. When a client is in a session without their partner, they tend to become more honest, as the office provides a safe space that their relationship lacks. The reality is that differing opinions, within a trusting environment, enrich a relationship. Whether it’s how the toilet paper rolls or who you're going to vote for, being curious and open is a wonderful culture to build a relationship in.
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